10.5 facts about me.
Updated: May 19
"The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes." — Marcel Proust
One summer day twenty five years ago, I brought my then-boyfriend home to meet my parents. The two men sat out on the tiny deck, drinking beer and looking over Lake Washington. Within minutes, Dad launched into tales from when he was young and restless, and left Japan by sneaking onto a cargo ship headed to Mexico.
That was unusual enough—I'd only heard these Mexico stories once or twice myself.
But then Dad said, "Oh, and then I ended up in jail. For days."
Has a forehead-smacking newsflash like this ever happened to you? The kind where the stranger finds out some intimate detail about someone you've known forever first?
I used to read into these moments. I assumed they meant, "You're not important enough to me to tell you these things." But lately, I've begun to wonder if if maybe the problem isn't so personal.
Maybe the truth is that many of us habituate to the other person's presence, and overtime, we stop digging for something curiosity-stimulating to share.
This, despite the fact that we constantly yearn to know and be known.
So, on that note, here are 10.5 random facts that you may or may not know about me. (No jail stints involved.)
1. My first favorite story was the fairy tale, Puss in Boots. There’s a recording of me reciting it with glee, all from memory. I was two-and-a-half.
1.5. I listened to that recording almost thirty years later. By then, I’d forgotten how the story went. And I was stunned to discover how morally ambiguous my earliest hero was.
2. The song We’re Going to Be Friends by the White Stripes makes me ugly cry. Every time. And guess what the KEXP DJ played as I was pulling into the parking lot on the first day at a new job?
3. My two children, now 15 and 12-years-old, had the exact same birth weight (9.87 pounds.)
4. When I was new to guided meditations, each time I was asked to envision myself in a peaceful place, I went to a sunlit corner of the old Clyde Hill Elementary School library—right beside the Beverly Clearly books.
5. I love smelling “new air” when I get off the plane in a city or country I’ve never been to before.
6. One fall evening in a church basement, I heard a parent educator define courage this way. “Courage is taking a step in the direction of what you know to be right, when it’d be so much easier not to.” Until then, I hadn’t known that courage was a verb and an everyday choice.
7. I have an extensive visual memory bank of greige paint colors by Benjamin Moore.
8. Some days I cook a made-up meal with random bits from the refrigerator and pantry—because I just can’t bring myself to go to the grocery store. More often than not, these meals turn out to be some of the yummiest things I’ve ever made and will never have again.
9. I think that exquisite is one of the most delightful words in the English language to say out loud.
10. The Myers-Briggs test says I’m an INFP. I wholeheartedly agree with the assessment.
Did I surprise you with anything new?
If reading this list made you think of something you might not have shared before with your spouse, friend, close colleague or child, I hope you decide to tell them. Soon. I'm certain they'll be delighted to have this information about you. And if you also did a stint in a Mexican jail in your distant past? Don't worry, I won't judge.
PS. If you're inspired to make a 10 Things list of your own, please share it with me. I can't wait to find out what wild and beautiful things there are to know about you.